Healthy Break-Ups

Sounds weird, doesn’t it?  I am sure people would be disappointed after going through the title, assuming that either I am trying to make fun of their feelings or I am insane not to understand how painful the situation was for those love birds who went through this trauma. But, let me clarify before proceeding with the article that I am neither trying to console the broken hearts nor am I trying to hurt anybody’s sentiments through this article. It is just an attempt to help those genuine souls who have been a victim of these unpredictable situations and who weren’t prepared to face the break-up.

We all are born to love and be loved. None of us would long for a secluded life, except a few who are in search of inner-self. Though men have a pragmatic approach towards life, yet they equally possess the emotional quotient.  A woman on the other hand possesses a higher emotional level, thereby she is blessed with the POWER to continue the human race. Many of the relations fail to sustain when there is an imbalance between pragmatic and emotional approach towards the situations that life throws at us. Both the partners fail to understand the law of nature, the prime cause of all miseries. Keanu Reeves famously said, “Falling in love and having a relationship are two different things.” Sometimes, no matter how much you try to make your relationship work, it seems like it’s just not meant to be…

I say break ups are healthy because it gives you an opportunity to fall in love with oneself again. When a couple is committed, the ME TIME usually gets converted to We TIME, thereby leaving the individuals with very limited hours for themselves. Thats the beauty of a relationship. The initial days will definitely be a fairy tale for both the partners as compromises would be from both the ends. I have also witnessed people who change their priorities once they are into relations, which is initially encouraging but not long lasting. They bond of friendship starts weakening, the family time is been distributed and also the leisure time goes for a toss. As said, “All is fair in love and war.”  Neither of us would get into a relationship with a mindset of breaking it up, nor would, we be prepared to face the consequences of the paralyzed heart, thus break-ups being the most difficult part of life.

The following are some of the ways one can heal from a break-up:

 

 Me time:

You get a lot of Me time which was missing earlier. Loving oneself is the best way to fall in love with others. Think about all the positive things about yourself and convince yourself that you are a wonderful person in the universe.  Console yourself that things were destined to happen to teach you the hard truths of life and nothing else. Some relations are destined that way. Stop blaming yourself or your partner for those quarrels or misunderstandings that hampered your relation. There is no gain in mourning over the past. Let it go!

Firstly, accept the fact that its over. Prepare yourself mentally, rather than running away from the truth. The battle is half won when you accept the reality and try moving on. I agree its easy for me to put into words, yet I would suggest you to be at peace with self. You deserve your own time.

Leisure Activities:

I am sure all of you own a bucket list that you would want to start with. There might be ample things that we regret of not accomplishing due to sheer shortage of time. We were so engrossed in live, such that we forgot to live the moments that we wanted to. I always wanted a moonlight Trek, witness a live volcano, live in a cave, tour around the world and the list goes on. I am sure all of you will definitely have such crazy thoughts. Why not give a chance?  Gear up and occupy yourselves into those activities that you missed the most. Be it watching a sitcom, a late night movie, pyjama party or reading a book, ensure that you are into it. Join a hobby class, go for a walk, hit the gym, watch the sunrise/sunset, sit in the balcony and have a coffee, get wet in the rain, draw, sketch or paint, visit an orphanage and if nothing suits you in this, just click a smiley and cheer up. You deserve to be happy.

 

Friends or foes:

It’s the times we’re so crazy,
that people think we’re high.
It’s the times we laugh so hard,
we can’t help but cry.
It’s all the inside jokes
and “remember whens”.
those are all the reasons
that we’re best friends!

We all are blessed to possess good friends in our life. We always count on them irrespective of not sharing any biological relation with them. We make friends in every move of our life and some of them becomes a part of our journey. We cannot stay away from such people for a longer time. Lucky are those souls who could manage their friend circle along with their love life. And those of you who have built a gap, remember falling in love cannot be an excuse. You really need to take a step forward, call them up, surprise them by visiting their place (they can’t throw you out) and genuinely apologize. Let them realize that you really missed them and how much they mean to you. True friends will definitely understand you and will be there to support you.

Career Feeding:

Ya you read it right!  Its high time you have shouldered extra responsibilities or pondered about your career options. Do you remember the last time when you sat comfortably in front of your system and questioned “what next?” The time that you had invested, to respond to the calls or texts of your ex, should now be utilized towards your career goals. The world is really getting competitive with more and more inventions and innovations each day. Enroll yourself in a course or spend some extra time to master some of the tools. Expertize and frame your USP (Unique Selling Point). Your pay and  designation matters.

 

Its not to easy to forget your love and move on in life. The emotional roller coaster that an individual goes through after the relationship break-up is very painful. Fear, hopelessness, anxiety, anger and insecurity dwells in your body and dealing with these mood swings will be the toughest job for yourself as well as your surroundings. Thus relax, breathe and let go things. Its ok to restart your life.

Life goes on……